Wednesday, January 27, 2010

The Reinvention - Day 1 in Which Valri Cuts Her Hair

Okay this is the part where I get really, really honest with myself. To fortify myself, I got my hair cut. (See photo to left.) Seems stupid but most women will agree, they can see things differently and better when they look different and better. I don't know why that is - but it is. Thank you Lisette - I love the "new do". (No, not that kind of "new do".)

So here is what is true. I am scared - really scared. I'm not so scared that the sky is going to fall or that we are going to be on the streets. I am scared that I really have no true talents or abilities. I realize that in my last post I said that I was good at a lot of things - and I am. But when you are putting pencil to paper and sorting it all out, you start to wonder, "am I really good at this?" This should not be surprising because I cannot tell you the number of people (women primarily), professional or otherwise, who will tell you they feel the same way. Usually it takes a few Vodka Gimlets in a dark bar at about midnight - but given the right circumstances, most people will confess to feeling - at least at times - like a sham. (I'll bet a whole bunch of you are saying to yourselves, "yeah, that's me".) Maybe you (like I) sold a big account into your magazine - got a huge commission for it. Everyone is congratulating you and telling you how awesome you are. You are pointed out in the next sales meeting. Everyone applauds. You thank everyone and talk of how hard you worked on it. But really you are thinking: "That fell into my lap. I did nothing to get it". Or you're getting a reputation for being really good at what you do and you're thinking: "One of these days everyone is going to figure out that I don't know what the hell I'm doing". I remember very clearly about 12 years ago I was at a meeting at the advertising agency Saatchi and Saatchi for the Toyota account. Because I was working on a kids magazine, it was the first time I was in front of this group. I came in with several of my colleagues at Disney and we went round the table introducing ourselves and when I gave my name, one of the agency people (someone I had never met) said: "You're Valri Jackson?" (I used my maiden name at the time) "Oh my god, you're a 'goddess'!" I was thrilled to have such a compliment issued in front of my peers but I was thinking: " What are you talking about?" Okay, enough said about feeling like a fraud.

I have to believe that since so many people feel this way it must also be true that enough stuff falls into everyone's lap to make them suspicious of their own talents. And I guess it is also true that if something comes easily for you, its hard to think of it as a talent. But I can talk. And I am likable. And I can get you to think my way. So I guess I can sell. But why everyone can't do that, I'll never know.

So if I don't analyze it to death, I can stick to what I said yesterday. I am good at a lot of damned stuff.

Anyway, to come full circle on this topic - I clearly have to focus and work to fend off the fear that I will not be able to do what my prospective employer will want me to do - even if I've made a career out of doing it! I am reminded of when I first moved to Los Angeles as a 21-year-old newbie. So intimidated was I of the city and my lack of abilities that I nearly took a job making donuts on the graveyard shift at a shop around the corner from my apartment rather than apply for an entry level, 9-t0-5 clerical job at some company somewhere. It turns out, getting the clerical job was easy and I moved up rapidly but as I continue to "click and send" resumes to the far corners of wherever, I am feeling fairly confident about my ability to make some donuts. So here is what I am going to do immediately to remind myself that I can do anything. (Because I can!) I am going to do something really hard. I am going to lose the freakin' 50 pounds.

I'm not kidding. Six months.

On my mark, get set, go!



Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Escape From Jabbaland

It was a year ago today that I stopped going to the office. I was on payroll through March, but I did not go to work. If ever there was a photo that shows what it feels like to be unemployed for as long as I have been - this is it. Months of fruitless job searches through the faceless black hole of internet job sites leave you, after a while, feeling sort of helpless. Useless. Pathetic. And the feeling of course, is based in lies. Regardless, too long feeling like this is deadly.

The truth is (as if you didn't know it) that it will be years before we recover from what happened in the winter of 2008 - and when we do, everything is going to look a lot different. There are so few jobs out there and so many of us vying for them that its beyond ridiculous.

It isn't that I'm not working either. In fact, I am working very hard. The work that I am doing is rewarding too. Its just that I am not getting paid. Because I am working for non-profits. So I will keep looking for work but I am going to do something else too. Because a year later, I am fully awake and I'm starting to smell the coffee.

I am going to reinvent myself.

Yes, yes, I've talked all around this subject before. But there has always been a part of me that has believed that the job fairy was going to appear. I have come to realize that the job fairy is either on life support or dead and no amount of clapping of hands will bring her back. This is not to say that I give up. Au contraire! This is to say that if Heather Armstrong can have a home made career, I can too. Because I read her blog and it is possible. Now I have no expectations that I will become a millionaire writing a blog - that probably will not happen. But I plan to try to try to figure out how to capitalize on anything and everything I am good at. Throw a lot of stuff at the wall and see what sticks, so to speak.

And here is where I get to blow on my dusty old horn for a minute: I'm good at a lot of damned stuff! I don't know if it is the stuff that yields total financial security or a pension fund but I am going to figure it out, put it in a bottle and kick some ass. Because Jabbaland is a big flaming bore and I want out of here!







Sunday, January 24, 2010

A Man and His Rat

I am a very independent woman but I totally expect that Bob will do all the gross stuff around the house. It is Bob's job to take out the garbage and clean up after the dogs. He has to unclog clogged toilets and fix backed up drains. And for the most part, he does all that stuff without objection. I figured I did most of the diapers for four babies so it seems a fair trade. But he also has to take care of any of nature's pests. We live up on a hill with a lot of open space so there is a lot a nature. Namely rattlesnakes and rats.

Now I need to tell you that I would rather deal with a rattlesnake than a rat any day. I loathe rodents. They fully gross me out. Once when Bob was out of town, I had a couple of mice that were sneaking in. I had to set traps and every time I heard one snap I started to cry. Not because I killed a mouse, but because I was going to have to throw it out and to do that, I had to look at it. I am not joking, I started to cry. And when they got into my pots and pans cupboard I was so grossed out that I threw out the pans and started from scratch. I have killed my share of rattlers since we moved here 15 years ago but frankly, in the summer, we have a lot less rats because of the snakes so in a weird sort of way, rattlers are my friends.

But it ain't summer right now.

Now you need to understand, having rats up here is just part of the trade off for getting the view. Your house can be spotless and ready for the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval - you are going to have rodents around. Because frankly, we set up house on their turf. The land surrounding us is protected so they, along with rabbits, raccoons, coyotes, possum and a variety of other wild life roam free and come to visit the residents here regularly. Add to that the fact that we have ivy in the backyard and let's just say I know what rats look like. And they know what I look like. And it makes me gag.

Now because we keep things pretty clean and picked up in the garage and because we have "rat proofed" our house - they pretty much keep to themselves. But you can slip up. And that is just what we did. Or shall I say, Bob did. Bob left a great big open bag of dog food out in the garage. For like, a week.

Now here is what is so weird about my husband. When it comes to animal rights, my husband gets furious! He can't stand organizations like P.E.T.A. He believes that animals have NO rights. Other than those humans choose to give them through ownership. But he CANNOT BEAR to kill an animal. And that includes the rats. He feels so sorry for them. He thinks they all have cute little faces and actually worries about little rat families that are waiting for daddy or mommy rat to bring home the dog food to eat. And I am not making this crap up. He's a total fruit loop when it comes to hurting any living thing so his attempts to rid our garage of the rat (or rats) have been far less aggressive than what I would like.

So the other day, one of the traps goes off and he runs out to see if he has caught anything (because they often go off and there is no reward for the effort) and this time, he saw a stunned and injured rat, unable to move fast enough to make a quick get away. Clearly, the humane thing to do would have been to hit it hard with the shovel but honest to God - this is exactly what Bob did instead: He escorted it down our driveway with the purpose of seeing it to the end of the street where the protected land begins, so that this rat could die "at home". You know, so that he could die like all rats certainly must dream of ending their little rat lives. Peacefully and in familiar surroundings. And if he could have arranged it, Bob wold have given some sort of secret rat call and gathered the rat's little rodent loved ones around.

So anyway, I'm looking out the window at a man and his rat walking solemnly together on this farewell stroll, and this little ceremony begins to get an audience. First Grace, then the neighbors (who undoubtedly collected their own Bob story to tell later) and soon enough, we have a little parade of people walking along the street. With a rat. And I am looking out the window just shuddering with the complete ickiness of it all. But then, another resident of our area arrived. A giant hawk perched itself on top of a wire and set his eye on the doomed rat. At this point, Grace covered her eyes and ran home. Bob and neighbor watched as the bird eyed the rodent and the rodent prayed for a miracle, but it was not to come. Bob stepped back and the bird dove in and expertly nabbed the rat and with a teeny, final rat squeak, it was over. The bird had done my husband's job for him. And I wondered for a moment if the bird could also unclog a sink. But regardless, it is done. The nasty thing is gone and I feel nothing for it. At all. Except that it probably is too bad that it wasn't "over" with the snap of the trap. Prolonged death and all - not a good thing.

Anyway, that is how to get rid of a rat. Bob style.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

Who is Running the Show?


So there was this job I really thought was mine. Seriously. A friend delivered my resume to the sales director, he called me in for a "meet and greet". They were adding a position to begin in January and since the position did not yet exist, this was not the formal interview.

For an hour we talked. It was an extremely good interview. He said things like "I feel like we are connecting" and "your experience is exactly what I am looking for" and "I think you'd be great here." He asked me "how would you handle" questions and the answers I gave him made him happy. That's what he said. We talked about the job. The strategy. The possibilities. The client base. We talked about the salary and the benefits. He told me how he got started in the business and how he made a success of it. He told me how to do it myself. This was near the end of November. At the end of the "meet and greet", he said: "Well the next steps are to bring you in here in January and get the formal process started. If you don't hear from me in the next couple of weeks, don't worry - Christmas is an extremely busy time for us. But you will definitely hear from me before the holidays".

I sent him a thank you follow up. No reply. After the holidays, when I didn't hear from him, I sent him another follow up. No reply. Yesterday, I sent him another follow up and I finally got a reply. He misspelled my name and in three short sentences told me they had "gone in a different direction", thanked me for my "interest in their company", and asked me to "check back with them periodically".

Now I hasten to add, they never posted this job anywhere. So can someone please tell me what is going on out there in the working world? Who is running the show? I am fully aware that this company owes me absolutely nothing but is this really how its done? Give lots of encouragement and then dismiss you with a hasty standard format email? And then only after you have followed up professionally, multiple times? I mean, what the hell????

So for any company out there, I am offering my services to train your executives and staff on corporate manners, customer service, and honest diplomacy in the corporate world. It is a simple two-day seminar. My fee is $25,000 and I assure you, it is worth every penny.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

I'm Still Here!!!

Something I have learned this past month:

"That which doesn't kill you, comes really, really close to killing you."

Since being involved with the first Chase Community Giving Challenge through Facebook, making the top 100 charities, winning $25,000, learning that Johns Hopkins is going into clinical trials for an extremely promising treatment, preparing for the second leg of the challange, getting people to vote during the challenge (going on now and through January 22nd), and oh yes - Christmas and New Years - I am completely fried. No let me rephrase that: I am completely FRIED. I am so tired I can barely lift my fingers to type this - and I'm doing it in bed. I still have no job. My husband is being pissy (in fairness, it is his turn), I feel like an old lady and I hear we're in for one hellava storm this week. I want my mommy.

Okay enough of the pity party. But that is why I haven't posted anything in so long.

I am not kidding though. I have been so consumed with this for the past several weeks that I can't think about anything else. I have Facebooked, my Facebook friends to death - to the point where I believe that 90% of them have hit the "hide" button to all my comments. WHY ELSE WOULD THEY NOT BE VOTING?!?!? I am a person possessed!

And yet, life goes on. It is raining outside in Southern California - I believe it may be similar to what Noah saw. The streets are flooding and the trees are bending and for all I know we're all going to float away BEFORE EVERYONE VOTES!!!

Oh - and because everything I do for the rest of this week focuses on this one purpose -

http://tinyurl.com/vote4eds

It takes two damned seconds. What else do have you got to do?




Rose Fallon, Anne Fallon Smith, Donald Fallon - forever in our hearts.









Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Hello!

Well, I hope you've noticed my new improved blog heading (thanks Greg Bua for putting it together for me). I thought I would start the New Year with a new look. I also am officially www.dumpingmypurse.com so it should be easier. I have people who never could remember the "blogspot" in the address, so I got rid of it.

Speaking of the New Year though, it is one minute into the 14th day of January and I have not abandoned the previously posted resolutions! I should mention that it is largely due to the fact that I haven't started them yet. Not that I won't get around to them but I have been insanely busy since the holidays and I have to go back and read what I resolved to do. I'm sure it had something to do with weight and exercise and being a better person. I've begun none of those things.

But it is true that I have been very busy getting ready for the second leg of the Chase Community Giving contest on Facebook that begins Friday. If I haven't mentioned it enough times, we could win $1,000,000 and I have no doubt people are getting sick of my plugs on my FB page. But it will all be over on the 22nd and then I will go back to wondering what to say.

We are ready for the "battle" and we are up against formidable opponents. Opponents really is not the word to use here though because every single one of the charities is credible and worthy and I am grateful I can vote for 5. I mean how can you be "against" ending pancreatic cancer or "against" or making a child's life better? I'm not against any of them. I'm for them. Its just that I'm for us more. I wish we could all win. Certainly Chase has $100,000,000 laying around somewhere. I hear the banks were given some cash they haven't done anything with yet (but let's not bite the hand that feeds, shall we not?)

In my house, we have been working on two videos to release when voting starts. Both have been threatening to not get finished but finally, both will be ready in the morning - not a moment too soon. We have a virtual army of people who are ready to start voting on Friday - I expect the polls to be jammed for a while at first.

I am also busy with my other projects - mainly - find myself a job projects. I was waiting for my unemployment check this week. Instead I got a notice that I have in interview with EED on the 19th. I've had one before. The want to make sure I am looking. I will happily send them my file but it might jam their system.

Anyway, I have a plan. I have wanted to work for the California Health and Longevity Institute at the Four Seasons Hotel since it opened practically. I could sell this program. I interviewed for it once but did not get the job. It is an extraordinarily expensive spa facility and offers the entire gamut of health and wellness services - from state of the art medical technology and consultation, to nutrition and cooking classes, to the best personal trainers available, to massage and being served chilled glasses of lemon water as you soak in the jacuzzi. All in the most beautiful surroundings imaginable. Bliss. Bliss however, is not in my budget. Still, I would love to work there.

So, the Institute (or CHLI, as it is referred to) has announced a contest (which seems very un-CHLI-like - but who cares?). You enter with a video of up to 5 minutes in length. They will select 8 people to get a free 6-month membership with all the trimmings! I figure if I can be one of the chosen 8, I can lose a ton of weight, become their best testimony and maybe get to know these people enough to hire me as soon as they have another opening. Which may be never in this economy. But one can dream.

Speaking of dreaming, I dream every single night. And every single night I dream of trying to get a job. Last night, in a slumbered state of anxiety, I was taking an impossible preliminary test to get a job at Amgen the pharmaceutical company here in Newbury Park. I had to watch a video and write down everything I cold see. But the images were ghost-like and they kept changing - faster than I could write. I tried to remember things to write later but the more I tried, the more I got behind. Like Lucy and Ethel at the candy making conveyor belt.

In the meantime, I've available for speaking engagements. I can talk about dreaming.


Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Faithful to His Word

A little over 19 years ago, I stood outside in the dark with Dr. Charles Weidmann, my friend Anne's dear friend and employer, and grieved with him over her death only hours earlier at the age of 30. Anne had gone in to repair an aneurysm, but once surgery began, they could not save her because her artery walls had the consistency of wet tissue paper and could not be repaired. An autopsy revealed this condition was prevalent throughout her body. I remember telling Dr. Weidmann that night that Anne's mother had died of mysterious circumstances years before, at a young age; her doctors unable to understand what had caused such massive internal injury, had diagnosed her death as "complications due to a fall". I also knew that Anne had had an aunt who had died as a young girl and another aunt who had died strangely, also as a young woman. An uncle had died as a young man as well.

Anne left a 29-year-old husband and three daughters: one 18 month old and infant twins, born prematurely and still in neo-natal ICU at one month old. If you've read my blog, you know all of this.

Shortly after, we had a diagnosis of a rare, hereditary genetic disease called Ehlers DanlosSyndrome. There are several types of this disease but Vascular Ehlers Danlos is fatal and it is the type that Anne had and that ran in her family. We held our breath as each of her children were tested for the disease since each of them had a 50/50 chance of inheriting it and we were joyful at the news that all three tested negative. The tests had left small scars on each of their arms and as they grew older and learned of their mother we would point to those scars and tell them that they represented the assurance that they would not die of the same thing.

Eight years later, I came home from a business trip and was met at the door by 8-year-old Christine who told me that Anne's brother, Uncle Deke (Donald Fallon), had just died. Donald was only 35. I remember my luggage fell from my grip onto the ground and I just stood there in shock. I was overcome by the loss of this dear man, a favorite of our family. He too had died of this horrible disease we now knew as vEDS. What I hadn't known at that time was that Donald too had been tested after his sister had died and he too had been given a negative finding. Which meant that the girls' tests were now unreliable.

Using the same tissue samples that had been used in the initial tests, the girls were evaluated again - without their knowledge - and we waited for the results. We worried about Christine as she seemed the most delicate of the girls and tried to prepare ourselves. She and Jennifer were fraternal twins so their genetic makeup was not the same; Jennifer was quite strong, healthy, and athletic. And while Amanda was at risk, she was Bob through and through. She looked just like him - somehow we had no fear about her.

Finally one morning while I was at work, I got a call from Dr. Weidmann's office. He wanted to see Bob and me. And I knew we were going to get bad news. My boss and dear friend, AlecLilburn, came into my office and prayed for us. He too knew something about genetic diseases as his son suffered from a difficult illness as well. I left right away and don't remember anything other than somehow Bob and I got together and were in Charles' office. He slowly explained that Amanda was fine but that this time the twins did test positive for Vascular Ehlers Danlos. Christine and Jennifer. At the time of the first test, they still did not know enough about the disease to develop an accurate testing method. There was no treatment and no cure. They were at risk of having arterial or organ rupture at any time, which would lead to death. We had to be careful with them. No sports. Careful lifestyle. Nothing taxing on their bodies. Avoid any kind of surgery. The average life expectancy at that time was about 40. Bob and I concentrated on trying to breathe.

We first went to see our Pastor. I don't remember what was said but we both knew we would find our support at the church. Then we went home and had the impossible task of looking at our 8 year old daughters, these beautiful girls, and acting as if the world had not just turned inside-out.

What I hadn't put together initially though was an odd thing that happened the two mornings prior and the morning of the date we got the news. I had opened my floppy, soft bound bible randomly to see what God "wanted me to see". For three days straight, it fell open to Luke 18. This parable talks of the power of persistent prayer and patience in receiving answer to prayer. When I put the this strong message together with the news we had heard, I knew my girls were going to be okay. I was still concerned, I still prayed, I still asked for prayer, I still cried and sometimes I was still scared. But I never spoke of the girls condition without stating that God had told me they were going to be okay. Because He did. I didn't know if it would be an all out miraculous recovery or a miracle of medical science in finding a treatment or cure - but I knew it was coming.

The 11 years since then have been up and down as we have watched the girls develop small symptoms of the disease. They learned of their condition 2 years ago and while both have taken it well, it has taken its toll. It is, and has been, a dark cloud that we have walked under for a long time. We have worked hard to do what we can. The Ehlers Danlos Syndrome Netork Cares charity was one of the 100 recipients of a $25,000 prize though the Chase Community Giving program on Facebook. We were one of 100 out of 500,000 competing charities. That was a miracle, indeed. We now compete against each other beginning the week of January 15th for $1,000,000. We are working 24/7 to prepare for that.

And then, just days ago, I received this:

Dr. Hal Dietz, Victor A. McKusick Professor of Medicine and Genetics, Institute of Genetic Medicine Investigator, Howard Hughes Medical Institute, Johns Hopkins School of Medicine, writes:

Vascular Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (or vascular EDS) is a disorder of the body’s connective tissue – the material between the cells that give the tissues form and strength. In vascular EDS the body lacks sufficient type III collagen, a molecule that contributes to the strength of the skin, intestines, uterus, and most importantly, the blood vessels. People with vascular EDS live with the knowledge that they will die from this condition at an age ranging from childhood to young adulthood. They are also told that there are no effective treatments. There are no medications that are known to strengthen the tissues or delay blood vessel rupture. Attempts at surgical repair are often delayed there is confidence that the patient will die within hours if nothing is tried. This is because the tissues are so weak that they often simply fall apart during surgery – akin to trying to sew together wet tissue paper. Of all the conditions that I care for, I hate this one the most. It not only drastically shortens the length of life, but also robs people of any meaningful sense of hope and quality of life – always anticipating that the shoe will drop at any moment. Indeed, all too often children with vascular EDS lose any sense of ambition and purpose despite truly remarkable talents and potential. To their mind, “Why bother “.

Fortunately, there is now strong reason for hope. During the study of related connective tissue disorders, specifically conditions called Marfan syndrome andLoeys-Dietz syndrome, we learned that many issues, including blood vessel enlargement and rupture, do not simply reflect an inherent weakness of the tissues due to a deficiency of the body’s glue. Instead, the deficiency of a connective tissue protein, as in vascular Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, triggers an increase in a specific cellular signaling pathway, causing the cells to behave abnormally and to release enzymes that break down the tissues. We have early evidence that the same process is at work in vascular EDS. In mouse models ofMarfan syndrome we have shown that a medication that is widely used for other purposes can blunt abnormal cellular behaviors and prevent blood vessel enlargement and rupture, leading to a fully normal lifespan. This medication is now in clinical trial in children with Marfan syndrome. It is now our goal and intention to make mouse models of vascular EDS in order to learn more about the condition and to test this and other therapies. If someone had suggested 5 years ago that a pill might be able to treat a connective tissue disorder, I would have considered them crazy. Given recent breakthroughs and sufficient resources for further research, I will be shocked if a revolutionary new treatment for vascular EDS is not in general use within 5 years. I have already begun to share this sense of optimism with children with vascular EDS. Our job is to bring this goal to fruition. Their job is to begin dreaming big.

And if that is not a miracle, I don't know what is. True to His word, my girls are going to be okay.

But I have known that for 11 years.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

The Ghost of New Years Past


Yesterday, January 1, 2010, Bob and I woke up at about 9:00 a.m. and we were the only people in the entire house. Grace was at a sleep over, Jenny and Christine were at a cabin in the snow with a group of friends - chaperoned they adamantly claimed (and did I mention that I was born yesterday?), and Amanda was at a friend's who had hosted a New Year's Eve party. So yeah, just Bob and me. And I love my kids but I learned that when they are gone, Bob and I are going to be just fine.

I got Christmas taken down a little early this year (December 30th) so when I looked out the window and saw my neighbors' garage doors open with Christmas bins out and waiting to be refilled, I had a nice sense of satisfaction for being able to just sit and have coffee. I started to think about New-Year's-days-gone-by.

New Year's used to be a big deal. I remember an annual party at Michael Michetti's house. It started with the invitation. Each year, something different - like a mini bottle of champagne that came in the mail with the invitation printed on the label. One year he produced a 45rpm record and sang "What Are You Doing New Year's Eve" and spoke the details of the party in the recording as well. Very "New York piano bar" sounding. (Obviously this was pre-CD days.) It was so exciting!

You'd get a new outfit every year to wear - something glittery and festive. I remember one year I wore a satin champagne camisole, a black leather mini skirt and a gold lame jacket with black stiletto heels and black silk stockings (I was a mere twig at the time), with BIG hair, and bigger earrings (this was the 80's folks).

Walking up the stairs to his town home in the fabulous Miracle Mile district of Los Angeles, we were met at the first landing by a huge, 4' tall champagne glass that had a bubble machine in it - bubbles spilling out. Oh, it was a promise of a glamorous night! Then up to the gorgeously decorated living room and there was Glenn Mehrbach playing the ebony grand piano - and you knew he'd be there all night. Great food, plenty to drink , cigarettes galore, fun, fun, FUN people - all theatrically inclined. The evening would start with interesting, smart and witty conversations - loud voices and lots of laughs - and move on to sentimental chats and and everyone being very enamoured with each other. I mean we all LOVED each other that night. We were all completely over-the-top with our praise of one another. "Oh God! You were so fabulous in your last show!" "I would love to work with you again!" And on and on ad nauseum - only it was really lovely because we really meant it; it was a very talented and creative group of people. Ultimately, we would perform show songs and novelty numbers for each other (Sondheim being the overall favorite) and it would finally end with sing-alongs as the sun started to come up. New Year's day itself was spent sleeping. It was the stuff New Year's dreams are made of - very high-end, sophisticated, romantic. And we were young and beautiful. (In my mid-age denial, I feel compelled to say "younger" and "beautifuller".\I know its not a word!)

In contrast, this New Year's Eve was spent working on a stop motion animation video for the next phase of the Chase Community Giving contest where our charity (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome Network Cares) will compete for $1,000,000 (because we did, in fact - miraculously - win a $25,000 prize). The video is important and it took 12 hours. We were home at 10:30 p.m., in bed by 11:45, watching an episode of Seinfeld (which we couldn't believe we hadn't seen), and realized 1 minute too late that we hadn't watched the ball drop. "Ah. We missed it", was all that was said. Then, to sleep.

I need to say, I was more than content to spend New Year's Eve in this way. I don't much care about New Year's anymore. Its really a "non-holiday" holiday. But thinking about Michael Michetti's amazing parties yesterday morning I thought of adding one more to my previously mentioned resolutions: Host a grand New Year's party in on December 31st, 2010.

Of course, I'll need to lose weight.